The article says we most often reject advice and prefer our own intuition and decision making.
However I can think of several critical junctures in my life where I listened to others’ advice and am grateful that I did in hindsight. They could see my situation with more clarity than me and gave sound advice.
"most often" is the key point here - can you even remember all the times that people have given you advice in your life in general? I'd be very surprised if you took every piece of advice offered to you all the time.
Essentially a person has to be already seeking and open to the advice in order to receive it. And if they are ready to receive it then they'll likely hear it and do something with it. But more often than not, people hear advice and then continue to do what they were going to do in the first place.
This kind of ties into the "do you want me to listen or do you want advice?" discourse we've had over the years
I am not sure if there are studies on this, but it seems to me that while someone may not consciously demonstrate an action regarding a given piece of advice, some process of both internalization and mimetic desire likely leads them to incorporate at least some part of that advice for future decision making. But I think maybe I just talking about nature and nurture, in some sense.
I've found out that advice that works simply highlights truths already recognized by whoever you talk to. On the other hand if you try to dump your own thoughts, those will be rejected. So my advice for giving advice is to understand first what your audience believes in and speak in those terms.
The article says we most often reject advice and prefer our own intuition and decision making.
However I can think of several critical junctures in my life where I listened to others’ advice and am grateful that I did in hindsight. They could see my situation with more clarity than me and gave sound advice.
"most often" is the key point here - can you even remember all the times that people have given you advice in your life in general? I'd be very surprised if you took every piece of advice offered to you all the time.
Essentially a person has to be already seeking and open to the advice in order to receive it. And if they are ready to receive it then they'll likely hear it and do something with it. But more often than not, people hear advice and then continue to do what they were going to do in the first place.
This kind of ties into the "do you want me to listen or do you want advice?" discourse we've had over the years
Advice is useless, experience and learning matters. Maybe should tell experiences instead of giving advice
Advice against giving advice, top comment in the thread.
I am not sure if there are studies on this, but it seems to me that while someone may not consciously demonstrate an action regarding a given piece of advice, some process of both internalization and mimetic desire likely leads them to incorporate at least some part of that advice for future decision making. But I think maybe I just talking about nature and nurture, in some sense.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mimetic_theory
I've found out that advice that works simply highlights truths already recognized by whoever you talk to. On the other hand if you try to dump your own thoughts, those will be rejected. So my advice for giving advice is to understand first what your audience believes in and speak in those terms.